Female ejaculation and squirting are possible phenomena during a strong excitement, but they do not occur in all women and are not a mandatory goal for having a good orgasm.
The best approach is to create enough excitement, explore the anterior wall of the vagina and stay attentive to the sensations without trying to reproduce a technique to the millimeter.
1. unwind
Muscle tension and fear of wetting the bed can make exploration difficult. Prepare a towel or waterproof protection, choose a moment without interruption and settle in a comfortable position.
Short, smooth nails are important if you use your fingers.
2. Go to the toilet if it reassures
Some people feel a strong desire to urinate as they approach a squirting. Emptying the bladder before the session can help not worry about this feeling.
However, it should be noted that the expelled liquid can contain a variable proportion of liquid from the bladder, mixed with para-urethral secretions. The phenomenon is therefore not as simple as «it is never urine».
3. gradually rise in excitement
Don't rush to penetration. Take the time to stimulate the clitoris, lips, breasts, neck, thighs or any other pleasant area.
The more excited and congested the fabrics, the more easily the internal sensations can become.
Some women appreciate having already had a clitoral orgasm before continuing exploration, while others become too sensitive. Both reactions are normal.
4. Explore the anterior wall
With one or two fingers, palm facing up, gently explore the wall located on the side of the navel. The movement of «come here» allows you to vary the pressure without going back and forth.
The so-called G zone is not exactly the same distance in everyone and does not always look like an identifiable bump. Just look for pressures that become pleasant as excitement increases.
5. Use a curved sex toy
A vibrator or a slightly curved dildo facilitates access to the anterior wall. Apply lubricant and start with moderate pressure.
Rabbit Vibrators and other double-stimulation toys can combine internal pressure and clitoral vibration. This association is nice for some people, but it is not necessary to squirt.
What to do when the urge to urinate appears?
Do not force yourself to continue if the feeling is unpleasant. Slow down, change the angle or stop for a few seconds.
If the feeling remains pleasant and you want to continue, relax the pelvic floor rather than tense. The expulsion of liquid can then occur spontaneously, with or without orgasm.
There is no need to strongly push the muscles outwards. Forcing does not necessarily improve the experience.
Easy steps to remember
- Create enough excitement.
- Use lubricant.
- Explore the anterior wall with fingers or a curved toy.
- Add clitoral stimulation if you like.
- Stay relaxed as the feeling of pressure increases.
- Do not continue if it becomes painful or unpleasant.
Squirting may or may not happen. In both cases, the session can be very pleasant. It is better to consider this exploration as a way of discovering new sensations than as a technique that must absolutely produce a visible result.
As a couple: let the person stimulated guide
If a partner uses their fingers or a sex toy, communication is essential. Ask if the pressure and rhythm remain pleasant and do not try to reproduce a video or tutorial mechanically. A person may prefer firm and continuous pressure, another small movements accompanied by clitoral stimulation. There is no single technique that works for all.
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