It happens to have desire, to begin to masturbate and yet not succeed in enjoying the moment. The excitement can fall quickly, the orgasm may delay or not come, or the experience seems less pleasant than usual.
This does not automatically mean that there is a sexual problem. Pleasure also depends on the level of fatigue, stress, the environment, drugs and the general condition of the body.
1. Complements, plants and «tonics»
Some people notice a variation in their libido after starting a dietary supplement, a plant or a traditional preparation presented as toning. It is tempting to immediately attribute the increase or decrease in desire to the product, but the reactions can be very different from one person to another.
Fatigue, diet, sleep, stress and other substances consumed at the same time can also change the sensations. A complement is therefore not a guarantee of increased desire and you should not multiply the doses to obtain a sexual effect.
If a low libido, unusual fatigue or other symptom appears after a product starts, check its composition and seek advice from a healthcare professional, especially if you are already taking treatment.
2. An environment that prevents you from relaxing
The brain plays an important role in excitement. A door that can open, constant notifications, noise in the next room or the fear of being interrupted are sometimes enough to keep some of the attention on alert.
Even when the body started to react, an interruption can break the rhythm.
Before you begin, simply create an environment in which you feel quiet: phone in silent mode, assured privacy, comfortable temperature and enough time in front of you.
3. alcohol
A small amount of alcohol can give an impression of relaxation and reduce certain inhibitions. This does not mean that it automatically improves the sexual response. The more consumption increases, the more coordination, sensitivity and ability to maintain stable excitation can be disturbed.
If your goal is to better feel the sensations of your body, alcohol is therefore not a good method to «improve» a session. Above all, avoid increasing consumption in the hope of facilitating orgasm.
When you are drunk to the point of feeling your slow reactions, it is better to put the experience back at another time.
4. Some drugs
Some treatments can alter desire, excitement or orgasm. This is particularly a possible adverse effect of certain antidepressants, including several SSRIs. Other drugs can also influence sexuality depending on the person and the dose.
If the difficulty has arisen after the start or modification of a treatment, do not stop it yourself. A doctor or pharmacist can check if the drug is likely to be involved and discuss possible options taking into account the reason why it was prescribed.
The important point is not to automatically interpret this change as a personal failure. A change in the sexual response can sometimes be related to the treatment itself.
5. Disease or physical state of the moment
A simple episode of fever, a high cold, pain or an inflammatory state may be enough to make masturbation less pleasant. Psychological desire can remain present while the body has less energy and reacts more slowly.
Some hormonal diseases or variations can also influence the libido, but there is no need to make a diagnosis yourself on the basis of a single disappointing session. Instead, see if the change persists over time and if it is accompanied by other symptoms.
When the body is recovering, rest is often more useful than trying to force a sexual response.
6. Physical or mental fatigue
Fatigue is probably one of the easiest factors to underestimate. After a long day, the need to decompress can make you want to masturbate, but the body does not necessarily have the energy to maintain the excitement for a long time.
Emotional stress works in a similar way. One can seek pleasure to relax while remaining mentally concerned about work, arguing or worrying. The result can then be frustrating because the body and mind do not follow the same rhythm.
If you are exhausted, sleeping or taking a real break can improve the next experience more than changing toys or increasing intensity.
When should you be concerned?
A less satisfactory session from time to time is common. On the other hand, if a significant drop in desire, loss of sensitivity, pain, erectile dysfunction or impossibility of reaching orgasm persists and concerns you, it may be useful to talk to a health professional about it.
The solution is not always to seek more stimulation. Very often, improving context, recovering sleep, reducing distractions or identifying a drug effect is already enough to understand why the experience has changed.
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